I thought it might be cool to share a few excerpts from my new book “Resolution; 21 Day to Resolving The Battle Within”. I hope you enjoy!
#NoFilter: Living a Filter-free Life
“There is an overwhelming amount of information available to us all on the web each day, not to mention what is shared with us by our family, friends, fans, and followers. This necessitates the need to filter through all that information and to decide for ourselves where to put our attention.”
~Simon Mainwaring, Businessman
I am addicted to Instagram. (Don’t judge me!). I am always scrolling up and down my timeline, peeking my nose into what everyone else is doing. One day, I realized that I spent way too much time minding everyone else’s business on Instagram, and not enough time on my own.
If we are honest with ourselves, we can admit that we prefer focusing our attention on something or someone else, hoping to get lost in their issues so we don’t have to deal with our own. This is such a calculated distraction. Stop getting lost in 140 characters, or a 15 second portrayal of someone’s life. Start living a filter-free life, where you’re unaffected by the likes you get or attention you attract. Rest in the freedom of your honesty. Live in the joy of your true story. Embrace your flaws and know that your story is valuable. The picture that God is creating for your life needs no filter, so get ready for your close up and smile…
Finding Forgiveness and Forgetting Bitterness
“What we don’t recognize is that holding onto resentment is like holding onto your breath. You’ll soon start to suffocate.”
~Deepak Chopra, Author, Motivational Speaker
Many of us justify our bitterness, and hold onto unnecessary hurt and baggage because we have neglected the process of forgiveness and letting go. When we justify our bitterness, we ultimately end up losing ourselves. The bitterness may feel short-term, but it does long-term damage. Instead of spending so much time justifying your right to be broken and hurt, advocate for your right to be healed. There is healing in forgiveness, and while it closes the door to past pain, it opens the doors to a healed and whole future.
With forgiveness, you have to be willing to give up control, and be ready to release that person, habit or thing that hurt you from your life. Many of us don’t want to forgive because we are scared of releasing. We are afraid to let go and forgive because we have been holding on to that thing or person for so long. We are fearful to live life without the very thing that has been aiding us. The truth is, the crutch of bitterness has been destroying you, and it is impossible to hang on to what has been ruining you, while reaching for God who is trying to build you up. The two together don’t make sense, and will never work, because you can only put your faith in one authority; God.
When we refuse to forgive, we harden our hearts. So today, I encourage you to open your heart and begin the process of forgiveness. Begin to live your life free of shame. Find forgiveness, forget bitterness, and release the thing or person in your life that you’ve allowed to stay for far too long…
“You will be bitter in life, when you compare yourself with others. Run the race of life at your own pace.”
– Lailah Gifty Akita, Author of Think Great
For a season of my life, I felt so stunted and insignificant. Comparison was my greatest bully, constantly backing me into a corner and forcing me to look into the life of someone else. I was convinced that I was not good enough. All of my friends seemed to be working their dream jobs, or starting their own businesses. I was at home, scrolling through Instagram, comparing my life to others, and struggling to get out of bed.
I was so consumed in the life of others that I lost sight of my own. I was so stuck on comparing my success to others, that I often lost sight of what I was striving for. My constant comparison to others began to tarnish my gratitude and gratefulness for what God had blessed me with. Don’t allow comparison to be the thief of your joy. Stop minimizing the greatness of your life. Tell yourself to mind my own business, and remember that what others are doing should not affect your journey. Refuse to let the spirit of comparison handicap and debilitate your growth. There is so much greatness inside of you–focus on that, and know that there is no comparison…